Development Stage 12 to 24 Months

August 6, 2014 3:56 pm / by / no comments

Toddlers are quite the explorers, they have so much to learn and see and experience. He is walking, running, climbing, jumping all with wonder and excitement. Each new experience is building the child’s sense of self. When he falls down and you lovingly kiss him better, when he giggles at a new found fun and you join in with delight; he is learning to trust not only his environment but also the love and support of his parents.IMG_8670

The positive impact of our reactions to his new world, are important. The encouragement and consistency in our reactions to his discoveries contributes to his joy, courage and perseverance as he explores his world. That foundation of trust formed earlier is imperative to his next developmental stage of autonomy. He is learning to view himself as a separate person.

Your toddler has a sense of being separate from her parents. She may experience anger even though she is unable to understand it and doesn’t know how to manage it. He may have a tantrum or hit or bite, display irritability or even withdraw emotionally for a time. These are ways toddlers express their anger. They cannot describe it but if these behaviors are expressed, and you realize they are upset about something, talk to them about it. Toddlers understand more than we give them credit for. Ask such things as: “Are you sad that Mommy is not here”?   Give him reassurance that you are there for him and that he will see mommy soon (if that is the case).   Or if you see her acting out, ask her if she misses daddy? And then assure her, if it’s true, that she will see him soon. Validate that it’s okay to feel sad but it’s not okay to hit or throw things or bite. Be consistent with what you will and will not accept in their behavior.

Toddler’s can understand that one parent is no longer in the home but they will not understand why. Developmentally, toddlers unlike babies, can worry and can become anxious when the parent is gone. Separation Anxiety, the fear of not being in constant contact with a parent, can occur sometime after the baby is 8 months old. This can result in more crying and clinging behavior, or eating or sleeping disruptions. The sudden absence of a parent during this age may result in regression for the child, which means they could return to a former or less developed state. They may display behaviors they did when they were at a younger age. Emotionally, you want to help them so they don’t get stuck and can progress developmentally to the next stage.

What you can do to help them developmentally so they can healthily move forward:

  • Be patient and consistent and engage often in play with your child to help them through this time.
  • Show lots of affection and patience. Try to enforce firm guidelines for naps, bedtime rituals, meal times, and play times. Extra time and patience may be needed to prepare toddlers for these daily activities when they are feeling stressed. To develop a strong parent/child attachment means both parents must spend time with the child. Playing with your child helps to form deep attachment. Regular schedules help your toddler to know what to expect next.

Some activities that toddlers love to do are playing peek a boo, drawing, perhaps swimming, going for walks, reading a book together, going to the park or playing on the floor with toys or objects. Some also love to house rough. I remember watching my son rough house with my grandson at the age of six months on. They would roll around on the carpet and my son would fly him all over the house, my grandson loved it.   Toddlers love wholesome interaction in whatever form we give it. Singing and dancing is something you can do together or listen to music. Also, playing in front of the mirror is usually a favorite for toddlers. Bath time can be a really fun time with water toys and splashing and bubbles.

The Bible says we are destroyed due to lack of knowledge. I commend you for getting knowledge on how to best help your toddler through this difficult time in your lives. Because you are doing all you can to help your toddler now, you will save both of you some difficulties later on.




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